But now, empathy has become a luxury, rare item in relationships with friends and relatives. Because we are racing against life in a panic and hurry. Everything happened so quickly, so quickly that people had not yet understood each other's grief, so they had to go to work, go to school, pay installments, and answer work messages at midnight.
Are you sad? Don't expect someone to come and pat you back. They will throw you a Sure up! and then continue to scan your phone. You tell me about being scolded by your boss? The answer could be a comparison: What is that? I was even cursed and kicked by my boss! You complain of insomnia? This, I havent slept for three days! The problem is not that they don't care, but they are busy asserting their suffering is greater, instead of really listening.
The same goes in the family. Children want to share but parents are busy paying more attention to their scores and achievements than their own thoughts. The grandparents were lonely but their children and grandchildren only had time to ask: "Are you healthy?" and then ran away in a hurry. Lack of empathy, relationships become rough, bland like a package of instant noodles without success.
The most typical story is inviting each other out to eat. There is a friend who has just had a crush, and wants to confide. But after ordering the dish, the whole group looked at the phone, occasionally nodding: "Oh, that guy is so bad!" and then continued to search TikTok. Finally, the person who had a broken heart had to comfort him back: "Please let's just call, I'm fine...".
So, if you don't want the understanding to disappear, take some time to ask each other a sincere question. Learn to listen, instead of comparing pain. Put down your phone while your friend is telling a story. Remember, we can be busy, but don't be so busy that you forget to be a listener. Because in the end, few people remember how many things we have done in life, but remember how we have treated each other.
